The discipline of a great sex life is important. The devil is trying to distort sex, but God created it and talks about it in the Bible. In the covenant of marriage, sex is good.
It’s easy to fall into unhealthy patterns and develop vicious cycles. The Bible warns us about this. When we fall into vicious cycles, they can define the relationship.
“If you do xyz, then I will give you sex.”
1 Corinthians 7:3-5
“The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife.
Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”
When we withhold sex, we are using it as a weapon.
These are the games marriages will play and it isn’t limited to only sexual intimacy. It can bleed into emotional intimacy.
“I am only doing this because you want it, not because I want it.”
There is more to sex that God intends than just the physical act. It involves an emotional and spiritual component as well.
If this is a struggle for you, work it out through a counselor if you need to. Don’t stay in that place of shame and struggle.
If this is constant, check your life schedule, or meet with a doctor because hormones are REAL!
If you are healthy, begin to find ways to conserve energy in your day for your spouse.
It might not sound romantic, but what is less romantic is not having it at all.
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